People often say to me I would much rather have a puppy then an adult dog because then I can train them to be the way I want. With adult dogs you just don't know what they have been through so you don't know what you are going to get.
I TOTALLY DISAGREE WITH THAT! Ok, yes true you don't know what they have been through but you TOTALLY know what you are going to get.
As with several of my adopters I became friends with a couple that has 3 JRT's. The first 2 they adopted just as I was getting started with fostering dogs. I wasn't really involved with the rescue, fostering or placing of the first 2. They were both adult dogs. Their 3rd dog I facilitated the adoption but again wasn't that involved in the rescue or fostering of dog #3. Dog #3 was just a puppy when they adopted her. I remember she was fostered with a women in MI, just over the Ohio boarder. Of course was wtih all puppies we didn't have her in rescue for very long.
Fast forward 4 years laster. Dog #3 has been a bit of an alpha dog. Causing fights from time to time and NOT being able to be in the same room as the wife's parent's dog. Last night was the final and ultimate straw. Dog #3 went crazy attacking one of the other dogs in the house. This wasn't a you made me mad so grrrr moment this was a attacking to go in for the kill I hate you blood everywhere can't get them apart type of thing.
THIS IS A VERY GOOD EXAMPLE OF WHY I STAY IN TOUCH!!!!!
The husband calls me and says "Amy what am I supposed to do? I can not have this going on in my house ESPECIALLY with my 1 year old being right there when this all happened." I told him I 100% agree with him. If him and I wouldn't have been in contact all these years my reaction would be bring her back to me. BUT since we do keep in contact and have become friends becauase I keep in contact I knew Dog #3 was NOT adoptable. She has issues that can not be resolved, this is not the first issue they and I have had while baby sitting her of her being dog aggressive and things are starting to get worse.
Many lessons learned here:
#1. This is a great example of why I stay in contact with adopters. Make sure that things are going ok, try to help them through issues and think of it this way.... lets pretend I DO NOT keep in touch Dog #3 could have been taken to another shelter, could have been re homed by the current owners or they could have called me to return her and since I don't know her history because I didn't keep in touch I would have taken her back and placed her. AND WHAT COULD THAT HAVE LEAD TO???? Simple a child being hurt, Dog #3 being abused, Dog #3 being put to sleep at the hands of a stranger or even being killed by another dog that she started a fight with that well was bigger then her or more mean! NONE of those sound good to me.
so for those who say "I should NOT keep in contact" or refuse to sign the contract b/c I do keep in contact.. what do you think now???
#2. Just because you get a dog as a puppy DOES NOT MEAN YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GETTING!!!!!!
#3. Sometimes doing the RIGHT thing for your family and aggressive dog is hard but at least they aren't DUMPED at a shelter wondering how did I get her or being abused or suffering in mental pain any longer.
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Amen.
So what happened with dog # 3 -- is it going to be rehomed, or euthanized or what ?
I have worked with MANY, MANY animals over the years.They are abused, abandoned, and then there are the ones who make you cry, not just cry, more like a hard sob that you feel in your soul.The ones that are put in such situations by our "human" counterparts.And thats why I "sob" EVERY time I see it.If a rescuer says they have become accustomed to it then he or she should find a new line of work. My point is that some of these wonderful creatures have been so deeply scarred that they never fully come back from that.You have done the responsible thing by keeping in contact with your adopting families.There are far to many groups who only worry about how many animals they are adopting out.They forget they are doing this first for the animals then for the people who love them. BRAVO Dog Rescuer. Keep fighting the good fight. I will do the same. TY
You make so many wonderful points in this post. Thank you so much.
Ashley DeMazza
Falls Village, CT
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